Let me begin by being clear:
In this post, I do not label my own sexuality as straight, bisexual, or biromantic. That’s intentional — because my focus here is not on personal labels, but on my role as an Ally to the LGBTQIA+ community.
Let’s start with a distinction: Ally vs. Advocate.
For me, an Ally is someone — often straight — who stands in deep, consistent support of true equality for all people. That includes individuals who are marginalized due to disability, race, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, or political beliefs.
Simply put:
No one should be mistreated, excluded, harmed, or denied basic rights — ever.
My personal definition of “ally” is rooted in something deeper — a spiritual and moral calling to support anyone who faces injustice, hatred, or discrimination. This includes using my voice, my platforms, and my lived experience to bring light where there is pain.
I am an Ally to the LGBTQIA+ community not only because of beloved friends and family members, but because no human being should be denied safety, respect, or equal rights.
Using my platforms to show support may seem like a small gesture, but it’s an essential one. As a white woman — and as someone who has known pain, judgment, and exclusion — I feel a deep responsibility to stand against injustice and to speak up for those who are often silenced.
My allyship is unwavering.
It extends beyond Pride Month and beyond political cycles.
It is a part of who I am — always.
Taking it a step further, I choose not just to be an ally, but also an Advocate.
To those who have followed my Widow 101 journey and may not agree with this stance, I invite you:
Learn more. Ask questions. I welcome respectful, Socratic conversations — where we, as humans, can grow together, challenge assumptions, and build common ground.
At the very least, let’s agree to disagree with mutual respect — and a shared hope for a kinder world.
Final Thought
It costs nothing to be kind.
A smile, a hello, a gesture of respect — these are simple, human acts that can change everything.
Please treat all people with dignity.
We’re all on a journey — and we’re better when we walk it together.
With love and purpose,
Widow 101
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